What if the most powerful tool for your health, your confidence, and your sex life is a muscle most of us have never been taught to use?

In this eye-opening and laugh-out-loud honest episode, Tess and Layne welcome Heather Ford, founder of Core Restore Co., sexologist, and the woman on a mission to give women the body knowledge they were never given.

Heather opens up about her own wake-up call: three months postpartum, standing on a trampoline with her toddler, when she realised she was about to leak in front of a room full of strangers. In that moment of shame, she made a decision. She went back to university, completed a Master's in Women's Medicine and a Master's in Sexology, and built five clinics across New South Wales on the belief that women deserve to understand their own bodies.

Together they unpack what the pelvic floor actually does, why most women cannot name the parts of their own vulva, and why that gap in knowledge is costing us in confidence, comfort and connection. Heather walks through the anatomy lesson most of us never got at school, from the seven holes we all have (yes, seven) to the skene's glands, the Bartholin's glands, and the real size of the clitoris (nine to twelve centimetres, and it goes inside). She explains why the pelvic floor is the body's stress response muscle, how it is connected to your jaw, your diaphragm, your breathing and your mental health, and why learning to relax it may be the most underrated health tool available to any of us.

Layne shares what a decade in menopause has actually felt like and the quiet ways she and Kirk have reimagined intimacy. Tess reflects on rebuilding trust in her body after injury and the role of nervous system regulation in reopening the door to desire. And Heather finishes the conversation by leading the entire studio through the world's first group puss-up. Yes, really.

If you have ever felt like your sex ed was missing half the picture, or you have quietly wondered why things have changed in your body and nobody gave you a map, this episode is your map.

What you will learn

• Why most women cannot label the parts of their own vulva, and why that gap in knowledge directly affects sexual confidence and satisfaction
• How the pelvic floor works as the body's stress response muscle, and the cycle that connects it to breathing, cortisol levels, and mental health
• The anatomy you were never taught: the seven holes, the female prostate, the real size and shape of the clitoris, and what the Bartholin's glands do
• Why stress kills libido, and what the difference between spontaneous and responsive arousal means for your relationship
• How to communicate about intimacy in a way that removes pressure and creates connection, including why you should never have that conversation in the bedroom
• The truth about squirting, ethical porn, and lube (short answer: everyone should be using it)
• How to do a puss-up, and why your next sexual experience starts the moment the last one ends