What Is Sustained Success? Values, Dream Teams and the Actions That Count

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to get clear on your values, build your dream team that holds you accountable to them, and why action, not motivation, is the real antidote to fear. This is the launch of our sustained success series and it starts here with us like all good wakeup calls do. So today we want to ask the question underneath all of this is what does success actually mean to you? Not your parents not your in industry not Instagram you. Yikes. LB what is sustained success for you

that that wasn't enough. I had to do more. I wanted more. I wanted to achieve more. And then when I won six consecutive world titles, the realization became apparent that I wasn't going for world titles. I was going for self-worth. And the lack of sustainable modalities that I applied to achieve that goal cost me my quality of health, my quality of relationships, my quality of well-being. Today, I'm still in pain management because I didn't honor all of the challenges that I encountered while I was striving for success. So if we think about success versus sustained success, I know today that sustained success means implementing all the little things to ensure that we can sustain the effort, the intensity, the focus, the attention, all the things that require us to achieve greatness requires sustained implementation of micro habits of micro moments to ensure that we don't burn ourselves out and crush everyone on the way to be standing on the mountain alone. Yeah. or on the podium in a bikini spraying champagne. That was fun. Yeah. But not spraying myself down with champagne. Yeah. I really missed the fact that people would want to actually spray me and celebrate me, but they did not. Yeah. Cuz you were ruthless. I was the compassionate tiger shark that had no compassion for myself. So, how can I extend that to anyone? And then how can I ever receive it? Okay. Well, that's a bit heavy. So, what's what about you? What is sustained success for you? I look at it differently just we're at

so I'm trying to be more consistent across every metric. So that's s that's sustained success. Success is inner peace. Wow. Like so that I really um love the person that a I am being and b I'm projecting to be. I saw this incredible um video of a guy talking about what who you are as a person matters when the front door is closed, not when the front door is open. So I'm really exploring who I am. and trying to hold value to who I am when the doors closed. Um to my loved ones like what you talk about like who do you burn like how do you show up in in the rub and the friction of life cuz it really does impact you consistency in who I am and who I'm showing up as inner peace. So peace at home behind the door in the mirror and laying a strong foundation. They're my metrics now. Nice. I mean, you you and I talk about um success in the people that we serve. It's about impact. So, I always have that. There's no point on doing this podcast or like flying around the country and delivering workshops and helping businesses help people or help people helping themselves if it wasn't making impact. True. So, I think that Well, I know that that's a big driver for me. Yeah. I mean, making impact, making a difference, that's that's reassuring because I mean, ideally, we want to know that our lives mattered at the end of the day and so you can measure that. That's that's a measurable metric. But losing everything for me, like I remember not having clothes. Yeah. like cuz my luggage hadn't arrived back from but and I was in hospital and nothing else mattered except for mom coming in with a warm pair of um pajamas. Simple things. Simple things. And to me that was the biggest moment of success. It was like, "Oh, I can get out of these this hospital gown." So I think it really depends on where you're at in life. It does. Yeah. Which is so different to where I was. It was like job title, car, money, house, part, like so many things were delivered to me as success metrics, but I know hundreds of people who are have got all the shiny things who aren't happy. And you've worked for plenty of those, too. Yeah. In your earlier days. Yeah. Yeah. So, I think about, as you're saying, different times of life, you have different values and metrics and a different interpretation of what success is. I know if I think about Kirk, for example, who was a musician for so long, I think I reckon his um measure of success is not having to ever get back on stage. Yeah. And everyone wants him back on stage. Of course, everyone wants to see them perform again. Who doesn't want to see NX? Guys, you would die. And some of the opportunities we've had to see in excess back on stage and they don't want to do it. No, but we're still working on it. Yeah, we will. But I think about the life phase that I'm in now in my mid50s and uh with you know a younger business partner and an older husband and a growing business and wonderful opportunities and for me it's about maintaining perspective and not getting too far ahead of myself. Uh making sure that I'm not really comparing myself to others. So that means having a really good support network around me and then being able to do the things that I love. continuously and consistently. So, still making the time to surf and if I don't if I'm not able to surf, then still get in the water. But just being able to put my feet in the grass. Yeah. And my face in the sun. You know, today I don't have the vitality to surf, but I made the time to walk down to the beach and sit in the sun and have a swim. So, it's the little things as we get older. You know, you saying, you know, when you were younger, it was about the big shiny things and all of the stuff. Whereas as we get older, especially when I've I've recently, you know, moved dad out of his unit, you come with nothing, you leave with nothing. I literally packed his life into two little carry-on bags and that was it. Um, and that's more than he needs, you know. So, keeping things in perspective and and that's the tension. That is the tension, but not getting too caught up in what you think society expects of you. what your interpretation of success is and what other people's interpretations are or what they may have been projected onto you may be two very different things about what is your understanding around success first like what does success look like cuz if you don't know what success looks like how do you know if you're there and when you're there what's next how do you keep and we're going to talk to people through these series who've realized that the bar just gets higher the more successful you become But again, when you're behind closed doors, are you happy? Yeah. Exactly. And then when that bar is reached, for example, what's your next step? Cuz I think about the Eagles, the rock band, the Eagles, when they made Hotel California, they didn't believe they could make anything better than that. And that pretty much did. Yeah. So, they lost their confidence and they lost their passion and their motivation because they thought that's that's the epitome. I think Adele was like she knew that that was going to be the best song ever. She just said like, "Fuck it. I'm going to let it be the best one." Drop might drop. No, she kept on going. So, in this LB, I know it's seasonal and sometimes I I feel like people look at you and go, "Well, of course, like she's a retired athlete, you know, has got all the things she needs. Like, like what would you know about an everyday, you know, human living in?"

that that suggested that I'm unloved, that I'm unworthy, that I've been abandoned. And rejection does breed obsession. And I would then became obsessed about becoming the best in the world at something because that was the way that I defined success that I had to become the best to be worthy of love and adoration and yeah and affection and all the things that you crave as a child. And I just uh I had pushed those away until such time as I desire I believed that I was deserving of them. And that wasn't until I became not time not a one-time world champion but a six times. It's crazy what we do to feel loved. Isn't it amazing? Yeah. And it's insane what we will sacrifice and compromise to do that. So when I look back at that period of my life, I recognized that the one thing I sacrificed consistently to achieve my goals was my values and that cost me my happiness and it cost me my relationships and but it was just what I had thought I had to do. M

shifted it? Because was it does it have to be trauma? Like does it have to be set back to to establish perspective or can it just be a moment? Could be all the things. I think you delivered the lesson or the message that you need at the time if you want to hear it. Yeah. Are you listening? Are you listening? I think I ignored it. Is that the feather brick truck? Feather brick truck semi-tra. Um, sometimes it could be I look back at some of the leaders that I've had to look at success and they were never the ones that worked the hardest, that missed out on family events, that were everything to everyone, who were like I I looked at them and I think I don't want that. Yeah. But I and I had I have got loads of those people still and I just think that to me and they think it's wonderful but do they like yeah I wonder you know but it was but the person that I always admired the most in in those when I was in my 20s was the person who had strong boundaries around business and personal time who said no to events to go home to train for a marathon or or triathlon or and be with their family and loved ones and they always triggered me cuz I was like, "Oh, come on. Can't you come and have some fun?" And I realize now that was my own projection. Yeah. Cuz deep down I wanted that. Yeah. But I didn't have that in my head. It was like, well, I don't have a family, so I've got to go and get that job title. Yeah. Okay. So to make up for what I feel like I'm lacking, I will overcompensate and overd deliver and be the overy yes person. Yeah. To ensure that I have something whatever that is. Yes. Right. And I think that's a and I know that that's a really hard place. Um and I'm only going to talk about this from a woman's perspective cuz I am not a man. Um, but to be 30, to not have a partner, and to not be having kids when all your friends are, um, your job is your life life and it is shiny because there like to me at that point in my life, I can't fail at this because I've failed at building a relationship. So, it was everything to me. So success then was like even though all I wanted was to have a family and a job, it was like my job is it so I'm just going to go for that, right? Just bury yourself in it.

what that means, it it was the house, it was safety, it was the happy marriage and all of those things. And I have always felt until recently that I've fallen short of those things. Really? Yeah. Really? Huh? Why do you say that when you've got a beautiful marriage and a four? Oh, no. That's what I mean. Like now I h and I've built that very consciously. Um but I still feel like I've got more in me. Like I don't feel like I'm successful. And that's a real interesting tension point because I feel like a lot of people feel the same way. They're doing a job they love. They're making impact. They have a a steady income. They have all the the the creature comforts and the things that they want, but they still don't define themselves as successful. Well, I'm successful in my new metric, which is inner peace. Inner peace. Like even though that does not sound peaceful and I'm very aware of that, sounds a little contradictory. It does. Um but I look at my life now and think, God, it's so much more wholesome and loving and real. like I'm not shying from the real. I'm not painting the picture that life is all good all the time. I'm just being myself. And that is that to me like I've learned that that's proper freedom. And you don't need all the clothes and all the money and all the things to give you that. That is like who you are in the mirror warts and all bare naked staring at this your soul saying am I happy? Yes. Yeah. And I am but I still want more. That's okay. Is that all right? Yeah. Absolutely. because that's what inspires you to get up and do what you do. It's inspire. It's what motivates you to get up on the days when you don't feel like it. Go to the gym, eat well, do all the right things, overcome the challenges. Yeah, it's all right to have to want more. And I feel like because I've worked with you for so like so long now and I know uh like the worthiness, mine is not worth, it's enough. Are you enough yet? Yeah. Like you've got all of these things. Are you enough yet? And that's the that's what I have to keep in check. What drags you out of that? Because you are enough if you choose to be. But then there's moments where you think you have to do more, have more, have the house on the northern beaches and have all the shiny things. Like what triggers that belief? Well, the resolve of like am I enough yet is more around am I showing up as the best version of myself? Like, do I do I like who I am? Right? Am I being my best self? But also, am I being real? Yeah. Do like when you're in the hot seat, when you're being on the mic, that's an exposing moment. You've grown up with it. I haven't. I've been behind the camera, not in front of the camera. This is all new to me. I had to come up with a new metric cuz I'm never going to be a seven time world champion. And no one's expecting you to be. No. And but what I am is the most real version of myself as consistently as possible. As consistently as possible. That's who that's all I'm trying to be now. Yeah. Great. But I don't for the enoughness is am I saying yes because I want to prove that I'm enough? And I know in those moments I haven't got the job or I've pushed too hard or it's not about me. Like I know I'm like oh that's in like I I can feel that um desperation to be seen come up and I see that in corporate people like see me feel me like I'm here you know like it's the desperation creates a version yeah and people constantly putting their head like I'll do it I'll do it I'll do it and that to prove that they're enough or they're worthy of that job. M. So for you, LB, how did you rewrite success now? Because you can't stand on a podium and spray yourself with champagne. Well, I can if I want to. That would be a little weird. Grab myself a world title trophy out of the trophy room.

comes with having the goal. Yeah. As a busy mom and an entrepreneur, I am constantly looking at ways I can optimize my sleep cuz when I sleep well, I feel amazing when I wake up. Micronutrition has an amazing product called Sleep Support. It has three different types of magnesium powder and passion flour, which just help me feel a little bit more rejuvenated in the tiny bits of sleep that I do get as a mom. So, visit micronutrition.com.au AU and use the code awake 10 and get 10% off all of their products. Enjoy your sleep. I've been managing menopause for years and I've constantly been looking for something to help me create mental clarity, boost my immunity, and help me show up with more energy. So, we came up with Wake Up. It's only got seven ingredients in it, including a bit of caffeine. But cortisps, turkey tail, jinseng, ginko, vitamin B, vitamin D, all really natural good stuff and it's good for you. So if you're feeling a little fatigued and need that little boost, wake up is your pill. You'll find it on our website, awakeacademy.com.au. I remember once I drew a a a trophy and said like imagine like cuz I wanted you to work on something and put your whole heart into it and I was like it's another trophy. Okay. Hey, I called it the eightfold title. I'm going after it. Uh, but what I I guess I know structure creates freedom and being the little Gemini that I am, I love the variety in the spice of life. I love being able to be spontaneous and do things differently. But I also understand the importance of having the pathway. But the challenge is if you don't know where the pathway is leading, learning to trust in the process of just following the pathway. And that's been a really big lesson for me is letting go because I'm a self-confessed control freak. So if I don't know what the outcome is and how I'm going to get there, am I willing to just trust in following the process, allowing other people to guide me uh and believe and trust in my ability to do and show up consistently to just walk that path. M and that's been one of my greatest growths in life outside of professional surfing. Letting go to hold on. Letting go to hold on. Yeah. So, not having a big burning desire, not having a big audacious goal, but I have micro goals that help me maintain the path that help me follow the process. When it's around my health and wellbeing, it's around my relationships, it's around my business, it's around, like you said, being consistently the best I can be. And every day is very different. So being the best I can irrespective of what's going on. And as our friend Ben says, and I know I've said this before, it's the conditions in our life, not the I'm sorry, it's the decisions that we make about our lives and our ourselves, not the conditions of our lives that determine the quality of our lives. And what I've been really um considered about is when it comes to achieving sustained success and reflecting back on the professional career that I had, there was three things that I knew that helped me maintain my position at the top of the world and s and sustain the success I had. And they're still relevant today. But the lesson is perhaps

quality of life I want to live. Now, that is dictated to by my values. What is it that I value? Your values then determine your behaviors which then is you from there you're able to articulate your vision. What are you start with your values? Well, I usually reset my values every year because our values evolve as we do and this is a three-part model that I've crafted from from many years. But yeah, number one is articulating your values. So my values over the years have been vitality, growth, and support. And we have a leading principle within our values which means one value governs all of the others. And that's the that's the value that really gets put ahead of the others. And there's a you know bit of a a a dynamic that you can do in a a public sorry in a one-on-one situation, but we won't go into that. So my values are really articulated through who am I when the doors closed? Uh how am I consistently showing up? And my values are um essentially things that are obviously really important to me. So what do I value when the pressure's on? What am I valuing when I'm when I'm angry or frustrated? Like what am I focusing on when I'm happy and in flow? And then I pressure test those against my life and then I find what my true values are. I read a great book by John D. Martini called the values factor. and he asked a series of questions and uh within those questions it helps you basically identify what are the things in your life that are already here that demonstrate your values such as water you know hydration, nutrition, learning those kind of things. Um so understanding your values then helps you decide whether your values are serving you or sabotaging you. Sometimes we value the wrong thing. Sometimes we value fitting in to an environment that we know is not supportive, but it's safety. So, what you're really looking for is safety, not conforming or fitting in. So, do you know what your values are? Uh, health and wellbeing, family and relationships, like relationships with self. Um, and growth. Growth and curiosity. Like always willing to be open and curious to grow and say yes and take on new challenges and Yeah. Cool. Well, that was pretty clear. That was easy for you. Yeah. Yeah. Sometimes it's not so easy. Oh, if you asked me like 5 years ago. Yeah. Even um I've even had to do work as a mom to separate myself from just being mom. All right. Yeah. So, what does that look like? Well, because I want to be the best mom and stepmom that I can, but I know that that's not actually possible like to be perfect. Well, there's no such thing as perfection, but it's possible for you to be good. Yeah. And but I don't want to separate that from my ident like that's not all that I like if I just said, "What what is your mission in life or to be an amazing mom?" It's not. It's to be a really good human in myself. Yeah. Well, cuz that would stop you from going to the gym. That's right. because you can't stand leaving Benji behind. Still can't leave. All right. So, success is having a clear

can call us and punch us in the face and then give us a hug. Give us a big hug. Yes. But then brings the best out in us and celebrates us, consoles us is just always holding the space for us. And uh there's very few people that have earned the right to be in our dream team. So we need to be very considered about who those people are. Yeah. And um and cherish them and let them know that they're part of the dream team. I mean, you're part of my dream team. Kirk's part of my dream team. I've got some girlfriends who are part of my dream team. And perhaps even if your dream team members need a dose of thank you or inspiration, you can share this podcast with them quite possibly and say, "You're my dream team. Listen to this." And the thing is, you may not be in consistent um communication with your dream team either. You know, your dream team may eb and flow and come and go. Uh I've got a very dear friend, Guy Leech, who's part of my dream team. I rarely ever see him, but I always know he's there. Yeah. And uh I love that you're wearing the um your vibe attracts your tribe dream team. Yeah. Cuz when you were a dream thief, you to yourself, you had a lot of people around you who were negative, who pushed you too hard, who also took advantage of me. Yeah. Yeah. Because I trusted in them. And but you were succeeding. Yeah. But you had a really bad vibe around you, too. I wasn't thriving. Yeah. So surviving. Yeah. So Okay. Okay. So, dream team is having people around you that support, lift you up, and help you shine. Yes. Yeah. You don't want to be the mean girl in the corner. Not always. No. No. Cuz I was that for many years. Yeah. So, I'm not the I'm not proud of that person, but I'm grateful for that lesson. Cuz I can look back and go, "Oh, wow. I'm so sorry. I forgive myself. There's plenty others that haven't forgiven me. That's okay. That's on them.

valued relationships within your dream team environment. So being aware of the action that you're taking and asking yourself, is this action getting me closer to my higher calling, my dream, my goal, my vision? Is it who I truly want to be or is this action Yeah. proving a worthiness or not enoughness coming from a fear. Yeah. Yeah. Cuz I had a fear of success and that was different to mine though. Yours is interesting. Well, your fear you had a fear of failure. So you didn't want to not f not succeed. Whereas my fear of success was I was afraid to be like the successful people that were around me. Arrogant bulldogs. Well, no, not all of them. But I also most of the mo the the role models of success in my life were men. So they were always away um maybe betraying their loved ones um making excuses not taking good care of themselves arrogant cocky obnoxious disrespectful and so I looked at successful people went I don't want to be that

and your fear resides in your ego and all your ego wants is to be right. You want to be validated. So every time I looked at a successful person like I don't want to be successful. Funny is you attract what you fear. So not only did I become successful, I became arrogant, obnoxious, disrespectful. Yeah. And then wondered why people didn't like me very much. Yeah. And that was because I really didn't like myself. Yeah. So, the actions had to change. And you know, I love that actions comes last, but they're anchored off values. Mhm. Because you can burn yourself out doing action and doing the wrong action. But if it's anchored in your values, you wouldn't let yourself burn out cuz you valued health and vitality, relationships. Love it. Exactly. Once you val once you know what you value, then that will determine the actions that you take. But if you don't know what you value, then you're filling yourself up with you're filling your life up with stuff that disempowers you and drains you. Versus when you're living according to your highest values, you're living according to or you're filling yourself up with life that inspires you, that elevates you. That's that's exciting. And look, you're not always going to get it right. No, I never never have I ever said that I'm perfect and I have all the answers. But I do love to learn and I love to challenge myself and I love to learn a lot about myself and that's why we love to teach this stuff on a wake up call. And I feel like one of the most empowering moments and I even said this to you on a phone call before is what is life teaching you right now is that the only thing you can control is yourself. Yeah. The only person that you've got to prove it for is yourself. Superman isn't coming to save you. No. Neither is Peter Pan. Neither does Peter Pan. So go out there and create the life that you see as successful. It there may be a season in your life which we've both had where you have to work really hard. Yeah. But it's not all the time. But it's also like you said, I think that the most important words that you said there is that you see as success because a lot of us have subscribed to someone else's interpretation of success for us. And a lot of those stories were never actually communicated to you. They're just crafted in your own mind that my dad won't love me until I become the best in the world at something or my mom won't accept me until I become the the most successful CEO or the youngest yeah athlete of all time but their very fear is one of the best energies too. No problem with being driven through fear but that's not sustainable. And that's why we're talking about sustained success is because fear will make you compromise your values, destroy your dream team, and perhaps take actions that will burn you out. So fear is a driver. It's a good motivator. And fear is actually more familiar than love because it's what we're hardwired to do. It's ingrained in us. Keeps us alive and safe. Yeah. It's a survival mode mechanism. So there's nothing wrong with having fear, but you do have to ask yourself, what is this costing me? And it's sometimes very hard to seek evidence that it's costing you anything because if you're standing on top of the world with everything that you've ever wanted, perhaps you might be feeling lonely. Well, I was about to say like I feel like at times when it's been the most like I've had the most success, I've been the most lonely. Yeah. Right. And that means you haven't done it right. Yeah. Surrounded by so many people but lonely in myself. Yeah. Yeah. like um a life filled with friends and still feel so alone. Yeah. Like Facebook. Yeah. All right. So, we've got our foundation. So, we've got values. Yep. Which has got your like ground your vision. Well, your values. Yeah. Your values are essentially um the behaviors that govern your choices and they're the things that light you up. They're the things you naturally go towards. So and your values are articulated through your day-to-day life. So if you look at your workspace and your home and you know your kitchen for example, what are the things that you can always see? So I can always see quality nutrition. Yeah. And and I always see books and you know learning and I always see um yoga equipment and and meditation bolsters and things like that. So what does that tell you about yourself that you value? And you make it easy to put into action. and you make it easy. Yes, my yoga mat's beside my bed. Another thing around values is that they do, as I said earlier, emanate from our void. So quite often we will notice that we've lost something and then we'll realize we value it. So after having chronic fatigue and depression, I recognized how important my health and wellbeing was. So I've always valued my health and wellbeing, but that's now evolved to having vitality. In my 50s, it's very different to how it was in my 30s. In my 30s, I valued strength, you know, I valued competitiveness and I valued um tenacity. Uh whereas today, I value vitality because that gives me the energy to not only show up and go to the gym and go surfing, but also the compassion and the care to not push myself. Yeah. Because today, I would love to have gone for a surf, but I've had food poisoning over the last three days, and I know surfing drains a lot of energy from me. So, I have to have the compassion and the care to go and have a swim, which still brings me that sense of vitality. Yeah, it's beautiful when life gives you these moments to put your philosophy into action. Yeah. Nothing does that better than food poisoning, right? I don't know about that. It's a great weight loss program. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So, let's pause for

call. I have been living a life that isn't sustainable or that I'm living a life that's not true to my values. Can we do this work together?" because you can hold each other gently through it and call each other up and out. Yes. There has been times where we've both called each other out because we know, hey, that's not who you are or not what you profess to be. Yeah. Exactly. Yeah. You're you're you're not being true to yourself. And we all, I think, deep down value authenticity because we've got that [ __ ] barometer in us cuz we're those energetic beings. And, you know, be your own [ __ ] barometer. Yeah, I mean that's why I love Guy Leech so much because he called me on my [ __ ] at a time where I was straying or stepping away from my goals. Like I wanted to be a six times world champion but I lost my momentum and I were exhausted. I was exhausted but he basically called me on it. He said you're acting in a way that's getting you further away from your goals not closer to it. So you've got a choice to make. You either lean in and do the work or you step out and regret it. Up to you. So he reconnected me with my values and that's where the second part of the model around your dream team is integral because they play an important role in calling you out but then also guiding you back. Yeah. To your values because it's very easy if when things are going wrong it's easy to find excuses to validate the [ __ ] behaviors such as drinking and drugs and betraying loved ones for example that are very misaligned with your values. And when you're misaligned, you're living in a life of excuses and pain. And we don't want that. No, not not that's not sustained success, by the way. So, what is the opposite of that? What is sustain sustained success in action for you? Well, being true to yourself. Yep. um checking in with yourself and then h perhaps doing an audit of the people you have around you to ensure that they are wholeheartedly with you. You might find that you've always put family members in your dream team when in actual fact they're dream thieves and they play a different role in different scenarios. And it doesn't mean you reject them from your dream team. It just means that you change the way you interact with them and you empower yourself to make choices around them. Yeah. and then hold yourself accountable for the actions that you're taking. Do you know how I hold myself accountable? I have a notes in my iPhone um and it's called um show me how good it can get universe and like so it's got some affirmations in there like I am sunshine and then it's got um I'm living a great life and then I put underneath it things that I want to achieve and then I put little micro moments of things that I've achieved. So it could be like pizza on the lawn in the beautiful sunshine. Like just things that just keep on reminding myself that life is serving me. That's a really beautiful tool. Yeah, it's really nice. And I reflect on it and I it's just those micro moments to remind myself that I am worthy of these values and this life. And then that might look like on a Friday when I write my to-do list for Monday, I just get it out. So work's done. Mhm. And then order the food that we need. So that's planned. And then I write the to- list, things I want to do. And that is the action that someone who loved themselves, who took care of themselves, who was planning sustained success as a metric of living life fully. That is what someone would do. So I've got it all in the one place. Wow. That's a that's a beautiful do it for life toolkit right there. Yeah. There it is. Yeah. So you've got the framework and I've got the toolkit. Yeah. And between the two of us here,

in with yourself. Check with yourself. Yeah. I mean, is your health optimal? Are your relationships optimal? Are you happy? Are you motivated when you get up in the morning? Are you doing things that you know don't serve you, but you've convinced yourself that the right things to do for now? Yeah. Who are you behind the door and in the mirror? And to me, that that is the greatest success of all cuz you come with nothing, you leave with nothing. So on that note, so be all you can be when you have something. Yeah. Oh, that was really beautiful. Thanks, Tess. Maybe you could put that in your notes. Be all of you. Be all of me. If this episode has resonated with you, please like this podcast. It helps us grow so much. Or share it with a loved one and help them grow. But most importantly, just book a date with yourself and do a little review. Am I happy in my life cuz that is the greatest gift of all. So, you're going to be hearing from a few people that we love and trust in our lives. Some have led um multi-billion dollar businesses. Some have been in your homes on your TV screens. and some are just everyday humans like me just trying to work it all out. Um, so thank you for joining us today. We will see you next week on a wakeup call. Toodles. Have you been listening to this episode and thought, "Mike drop. Maybe I'm ready to get coached or have some therapy, but you don't want to go all the way down and get a therapist." Welcome to the Awake Collective where we do monthly coaching to help people feel accountable, supported, and they keep on doing the work that you hear in this podcast. It is life transformative. Right, LB? It's a community of support and like-minded people who are willing to keep investing in themselves because what we do is we help people help themselves. If you've enjoyed what you've heard today, then the Awake Collective is for you. So, come and join us at awakeacademy.com.au AU and join us for monthly coaching, a community that supports you, and tools that you can use in your life to thrive. Let's go. See you there. Before we close, we just want to gently remind you that Awake Academy is not a licensed mental health service. And this podcast is not a substitute for personalized mental health advice, assessment, diagnosis, or treatment. What we share here is general in nature and is designed to offer reflection, insight, and practical tools for everyday life. Therapy can be life-changing, and we deeply encourage you to speak to your GP about your mental health and wellbeing options. If this conversation brought something up for you, please do not sit with it alone. Reach out to someone you trust. Speak to your GP. And if you need immediate support in Australia, Lifeline is available 24 hours a day on 13 114. You are not alone